Most frequently asked questions / FAQ

BLS is special because we are different and unapologetically unconventional. A creative and sociable Amsterdam-based team with a love for eroticism, humor, and class. You can clearly feel this reflected in our events. We place strong emphasis on styling, music, and entertainment. That is what it’s all about for us. In addition, BLS is special because not everyone gets access to the events. We focus on a younger, refreshing crowd where the dance floor is all about fun, play, and connection. This energy flows all the way into the beautifully styled, exciting corners that we specially create here and there for you. It’s insanely gezellig. 🙂

You don’t become a BLS member just like that — we carry out a thorough screening beforehand. This has allowed us to build a warm community of like-minded people, centered around connection, fun, and adventure. We find it extremely important that everyone feels comfortable at our events. Nothing is required and everything is allowed. You set the boundary. And that boundary starts at zero. Did something make you feel uncomfortable in any way at all? Please let us know by emailing secrets@biglittle-secrets.nl. Your enjoyment and comfort are our number one priority.

A membership is completely free.

The screening committee prefers clear full-body photos. This means recent photos from head to toe, in color, without filters, casually dressed, and preferably without sunglasses.

We are NOT a couples club. Rather, we are the ultimate place for like-minded people to meet each other. The party is at the heart of everything we do.

We put a lot of love and attention into the styling and the atmosphere. Our crowd is – if we may say so – fun, attractive, sociable, and always looks amazing in the sacred dress code. You come to BLS parties to dance, to seduce, to flirt, and to drift into playful, naughty vibes. A place where nothing is required, but where everything is possible, as long as it’s mutual and enjoyable for everyone involved.

An evening with open-minded people where the dance floor and erotic energy take center stage. At our BLS events, it’s all about dancing, connecting, and enjoying yourself. Let yourself go to tongue-tingling, bumping, techy, soulful house, sometimes with a touch of techno, and in an extra room you might even catch some urban beats. All of this is paired with delightful acts and atmospheric styling. If you’re fully in the vibe and feel like making the night a little juicier, that’s usually possible too ;). If you have any questions about this, feel free to email us at secrets@biglittle-secrets.nl.

Men in suits and women in lingerie. Trust us: it’s a feast for the eyes. :-). Dress code tips are always shared in our newsletters.

Men do not necessarily need to wear a three-piece suit, but at minimum we expect a neat pair of trousers, a dress shirt, and proper shoes. The dress code is sacred and we are strict about it, while creativity is more than welcome. Sneakers, T-shirts, polo shirts, and bare arms are not allowed. Do the ladies a favor and show your best side, gentlemen.

For women, almost all types of lingerie are welcome. The only thing we prefer not to see is fetish wear. Think of latex, leather, lacquer, PVC, and similar materials. For women, a nice small heel is required at minimum. Please no sneakers or flat shoes. If you are dealing with an injury or similar issue, let our door angels know at the entrance. For both men and women: no headwear. We want to see how good-looking you are.

Sexy, open-minded newcomers, as well as mischievous beauties who have been part of the open-minded world for a while. Mainly a younger, refreshing crowd of like-minded people.

The average age is between 30 and 45 years. But there are also quite a few sexy twenty-somethings around.

No, this is to ensure the safety of the ladies. Our events are therefore only accessible to single ladies and couples.

Well, we have a very flexible arrangement for that. If you can’t attend, you can transfer your ticket(s) once to the next BLS edition. If you can’t make it then either, you may also propose other members to attend in your place. We do not issue refunds.

Absolutely nothing! Well, okay — two things then: that you wear your most stunning outfit and bring your very best, naughty mood with you.

No, not at all. You don’t have to do anything. It’s your night and you decide. Being intimate only with each other and/or with others can be fun too. But doing nothing at all is totally fine as well. It’s up to you. Though in practice, that can be tricky — our members are very fun and very good-looking. 🙂

Keep your underwear on on the dance floor. At BLS parties, the dance floor really is a dance floor, and we like to keep it that way. The only place where you may take your underwear off is in the designated exciting areas that we facilitate, depending on the location. Feel free and celebrate life.

Yes of course. There are always lockers available at BLS events.

When you enter, there are always designated areas near the lockers where you can change clothes.

No, of course not. You don’t have to walk the streets like that. That’s entirely up to you. It’s your body 🙂
Our tip: wear a beautiful long dress or a trench coat. Still halfway in weekend mode? Just throw a comfy tracksuit over your outfit. We’re not difficult at all.

No, absolutely not. We are very strict about this. We want everyone to feel comfortable during the evening and afterward as well. If we see someone taking photos, we will kindly escort that person to the exit.

Absolutely. We have a professional photographer and videographer present who capture beautiful moments for after material. Photos are only taken with your consent and can afterward only be viewed using a code provided by us.

No worries at all. It’s your party and you decide. If you don’t want to be on camera, just let the camera crew know. They will take this into account.

Email us at secrets@biglittle-secrets.nl and let us know which shot and/or photo you would like us to remove. We will do so immediately. Your privacy, your decision.